Grab a cup of tea or coffee as this might be a long update. It has been almost a year since the last update, and I am sorry. So much has happened and changed that I am now just catching my breath, just before more changes come. First, I have been thinking about you all the last week and wanting to start writing again. And Sheila S., you are an answer to prayer about starting this back (you will understand why in a bit). So thank you my friend.
In February 2011, I took some time off after getting my Associates in Accounting in January, which was a much needed break. Then girls and I moved into the city into an apartment. This was a really be change for us. But within a week TommieLynn had all the city kids in the stream/small river and woods not to far from the apartments. Some of these kids have lived here a while and not know about the woods. So TommieLynn has some what adapted to city life but hates apartment life. The farm was getting to much for me to care for and it did not help getting stuck out there for two weeks after a big snow storm. March 2011, I started school back to get my Bachelor in Accounting. I have meet a wonderful man, Terry.
The summer of 2011: Terry took us on our first camping trip. We have an wonderful time and now are counting the days until we can do it again. Terry took me to see a lot of different waterfalls in our area and showed me all the country back roads with the old farm houses. We went to the lake many times, I loved floating in a tub on the lake. We had a great summer of fun and laughter.
TommieLynn started playing Basketball this school year because we lived in town so it was close enough to get her to practices. She loves playing basketball and is still doing great in school, all A’s and B’s. I am so proud of her. In about October, I started taking classes with H & R Block to be a tax preparer this year and passed the class and have my IRS pin number to do taxes. I start work next week but I am a bit scared as I have not worked out the home for over 15 years now. It was very hard for me to do my college classes plus the tax classes but thank the Lord I did it and passed both. Jobs in this area are few to none, and most say I have tooooo much experience and too much education to hire me. So the H & R Block class came around, so I took it. At least I can work 4 months a year. The Lord has a job for me, so I am doing all I can until that job is ready for me. Tasha and Gabby are doing good and Gabby is growing so fast. They lived with us at the apartment but now have their own place.
Terry asked me to marry him, and I said yes. We will be getting married on Feb. 4, 2012. We both are counting the days. I am so very happy. The Lord has been so very good to me.
Gabby, Tasha, Becky, Terry, TommieLynn: Dec.2011
My life has been so full and busy this last year, but all is good. And now I am getting married and moving to Terry’s house and starting a new job, all within the next few weeks. God is good. I have had ache to write here again but was not sure what I would write about anymore with me now living in the city. But the Lord shows you things when He wants you to do something. First, the ache to write again, then TJ (step son) wanting to know more about the way we lived and did things at the farm, and then Sheila S. message. So I am writing again and will take one day at a time and see what the Lord leads me to write about. I am starting yet again another road in this journey of life, and I am looking forward to see where I am going and I am going to enjoy every minute of it, one day at a time. I will be posting again this week. Hope you all have a wonderfully blessed New Year.
Becky’s Farm Life Brought to the City
It’s been a long week. Tommy has really been on my mind a lot. And seem like every time I turned around, there is something to remind me of him: a song on the radio, a note he has written, a saying he always said, ect. I have cried all week. I do good most days but this past week has been very hard. ( I think it’s because I’m starting to get ready for winter and doing things he used to do. And trying hard to remember everything that has to be done.) Please say an extra prayer for me this week. I have been sick too. It’s in my chest and I’m coughing and sneezing all the time, I think it’s sinuses. I hate feeling yucky. I have been using the silver water so much that someone could trade me in and get rich. 🙂 I have tried to stay away from Gabby so as she does not get sick, in case it’s something other than sinuses. I was up all night coughing, and overslept this morning, causing TommieLynn to have 8 minutes to get ready for school and to get to the bus stop. I have never seen her get dressed so fast. But I hated it that she had to rush this morning.
Winter is getting closer everyday. In a way, I am ready for cooler weather. It has been really hot here this year. I will be covering my windows with plastic this year from the inside as I do not do ladders well. 🙂 The food barn is in good order and ready for winter. I still need to stock up more on: bath paper, sugar, veg. oil, toothpaste, shampoo. For some reason these run out the fastest. Tommy used to tell me to buy stock in the bath paper company, and we’d be rich. 🙂 I know I can make homemade bath paper, but time is not there yet. But I know how if I have too. I have to change out the water in the 425 gallon tank in the next few weeks for winter use. I clean it out every six months to keep the water fresh. I am so thankful Tommy brought that tank, even thou at the time I questioned him buying it. Tommy has so taken care of us, still now. I can now see all the things he has done over the years and the things he has taught me, that I am using now and they are making my life easier. Thank you Lord for my time with Tommy. I need to get someone (who is not afraid of heights) to cover all the house’s outside vents and close the chicken house window up with plywood. I need to blow out the gas heaters with the air compressor and check the gas lines. I have to get the chicken water heater out and cleaned and check to see if it’s still working. I would like to get a few more blankets and make more cloth napkins. And hopefully find time to make everyone some wool house socks. And I need someone to show me now to use a skill saw. I need to do a few small things around the farm before winter comes.
A few questions to you all or your husbands:
1. How do I prepare the push mower for winter so that it starts next spring? The car is ready for winter.
2. How do I prepare our generator for winter? change spark plug, oil, gas??? It has not been started in months. It has a push button start and pull cord start. And it has left my mind on how to start it. Tommy always did more than just pull the cord and I can’t remember.
3. Is there anything else I am missing that needs to be done before winter sets in??
4. I need to get 5 gallons of back up gas for generator or car use. How long does gas stay good??
School is still going great. I am learning so much and believe it or not, I’m loving it. I have always loved learning new things. And the writing papers thing is getting easier, but still not fully enjoyable yet. I am holding high A’s in all three classes and we are now at the half way point. This fall I am going to try taking four classes instead of three. If I can pull it off, I will finish earlier. Tommielynn is still enjoying school. I am so proud of her, she is going great.
Thank the Lord the tractor sold, and the truck had died about a month ago. But I found a car, an 1988 Olds. Cutlass Ciera, 4 doors with AC, and a sun roof for a great price. Thank you Lord. The girls and I can now get around easier. I feel like a princess now with AC and a sunroof. TommieLynn loves the sunroof. 🙂 But I still feel like an ant in a car after so many years in a truck that’s higher than most cars. The car is great on gas, 3 1/2 trips to town equals one trip in the truck. 🙂 The only draw back to the car is, I can’t haul the 100lb. gas tanks (they are about 5 ft long and it will not fit in the trunk) needed for our heat this winter. So I am trying now to figure out a way to keep us in heat this coming winter. No one in my neighborhood has a truck.
Well I had better get back to the books. Thank you all for your comments and prayers, they have kept us going. I wish I could give each of you a hug. Hope you all have a blessed day.
It’s been a while and I am still here. Boy, I am getting old. I have been so busy that I am not sure if I am coming or going. Busy with what? Life. As you all know, things do not happen, one thing at a time. It all happens at once. And right now, I’m glad I did not plant a garden this year. And at times, TommieLynn has to remind me to eat. Why, because I honestly forget too. You mom’s should understand this very well. Often times there are more things to do, than time to do them.
It’s been very hot and sticky here for a while. One day, I went and sat in the food barn with the AC for about an hour. When I came out, my glasses fogged up and they started dipping water. And then I was hotter than when I went in. I am looking forward to fall weather. 🙂
TommieLynn has started school and loves it. She is still not sure about this thing they call “homework”, and can’t seem to figure out why she has to do it, when she did school work all day. How do you explain homework, to a home schooler, who never had it before? But she has been doing it and doing a great job. She really likes all her teachers.
This is her first day of public school. Thank you S.S. from MI, for the clothes, shoes, book bag, and school supplies, they were a great blessing.
A week ago today, TommieLynn was attacked by a red nose pit bull dog. A long story, main points being, for two weeks owners said it didn’t bite, they called TommieLynn into their yard to pet the dog, dog attacked her. We spent 4 hours in ER, dog did not have current shots. The dog got her nose good. And she still loves dogs. But they all don’t like her, as this is her second dog attack.
The dog also put a bite in her mouth, on the top of her gums.
Gabby is growing as fast as the grass in my yard. She smiles all the time. But her days and nights are still mixed up. She is now over 9 pounds, and 24 inches long. And she’s the house ham.
This is our drama queen and she knows it.
Tasha had her gallbladder taken out earlier this week. She is now still sore and tired.
My classes are still going great. As of today, I am holding high A’s in all three classes. The last four papers I have written, I had gotten a 100% on. How that happened, I still do not know. And I’m waiting for the teachers to send me an e-mail to say they made a mistake. 🙂 Thank you all for your prayers.
In my down moments, I’ll say I just can’t do it ( after 6 hours of just reading with more to do or one week to write a paper). TommieLynn will pipe up and say, ” I know you can do it, mom”, with a smile on her face. I will ask her to suspend me from school, and she’ll just laugh and say “no, you have work to do.” Boy, the Lord really blessed me with her. Now we will see what happens when I use her words on her, when she has homework. 🙂
And boy am I going to get plenty of practice on writing papers, 4-6 papers due every two weeks. This is way out of my comfort zone. I know there will come a day in the future when this will no longer bother me. Maybe, just maybe, writing all those papers will help me write that book Tommy and you all wanted me to do. I am being stretched, remolded, and refined. What does the Lord have in store for me? And will He give me any hints along the way?
Well it is time to hit the books again. Thank you all for your prayers.
Have a great day.
On July 13, I start my Associate Degree in Accounting at Everest College: a fully on-line college. 🙂 The cost is a little more for being on line. But here is why I chose to do on line. My truck is still not fixed, and don’t know now long it’ll last, the price of gas, the local college is 40 minutes away and a few classes on line. I would stress out more with getting to class than doing the classes. Everest got me a Pell Grant and a student loan ( that does not have to be paid back until I’m done with school and only $50 a month.), and they also send a laptop to use and when I graduate the laptop is mine. They will also try to find me a job while I am going to school. I am looking forward to learning again, but a little scared. I started Accounting in college before I meet Tommy, and had 77 credit hours. But when we married, I knew enough to do his business books, so I quit. Which Tommy did not like, so I know he is smiling down now. I have only about 3 1/2 years of getting Tommy’s Social Security before I’m on my own. So I’m preparing for the road ahead. And I really enjoy Accounting and book work. So we’ll see were the Lord leads this for me. Most Accounting work for businesses can be done at home and on line, and I might teach other home school students in high school years their accounting for school, and help low income people with their taxes. There are a lot of ways to use this degree. Please pray that the Lord will keep guiding and leading me day by day.
TommieLynn asked to go to public school. We talked about it and she’ll being starting this fall. She has agreed to go a year and than we’ll see from there. I think she needs a change too. I enjoy homeschooling but I think this will be good for her. I fought the idea at first because Tommy and I really wanted the kids homeschooled. But that was also when he was here to help with everything. I believed I would be a failure if I put her in school, then this came to mind, “ For everything there is a season.” And we are doing this one year at a time. So please say a prayer for her.
It has been very hot here. Boy, it’s going to be a hot summer. Yesterday, I hung old blankets on the clothes line on the porch and soaked them with water. The porch wraps around the living room and kitchen, which gets the direct sun at the hottest part of the day. The 4 windows in the living room are under the porch. So as the light breeze blew the cooler air came in the house. This is not as good as an AC but it helped a lot. TommieLynn would go out about every hour and spray the blankets with the water hose. The porch looks funny from the road but we are a little cooler.
On Sunday I found out that men are scared of snakes too. I found a really big black snake in a chicken’s nest. So I call a man for help. He says, use a rake/ hoe to get it out and tells me to watch out cause they bite and will make you sick. duh, I’m that smart. Well I’m not going back in there today. That snake can have all the eggs he wants. And he was still there last night when I checked before bed. It almost makes me want to get rid of the chickens. I really not like snakes. If he is still there this morning, I will try again and call someone to help me.
TommieLynn and I took silk flowers that spell out DAD and a wooden cross to Tommy’s grave site yesterday. This was really hard on both of us. I guess all firsts will be hard. We still really miss him.
We have an air antenna and have the convertor box hooked up. And I’m not very happy. Were we used to get 5 channels, we now only get one! Now the picture is much better but that’s it. I will not get satellite or cable. They said I have to many mountains around me. Well I will watch what I need to ( ABC News) on line. This is what I miss the most, ABC News, I have watch that News for to many years to count. Oh well not a lot I can do about it now. :( I still have Netflix ,on line News and TV shows, so life goes on.
Well I had better start this day. I’m going with Tasha to the doctors this morning, praying little Miss Gabby has turned. Hope you all have a great blessed day.
Well it’s been a long week. This is what’s been going on:
*Took my truck in, it was not acting right. Well I now need a new engine. The engine will last 2 days – or 6 months or maybe a year. Cost if they can find a used engine $1,800.00. Ok Lord, let’s watch and see what You do. I need to sell the tractor to pay for the engine.
*The man came and put a new glow bar in my gas stove. While he was testing it, the safety switch would not shut off. Now I’m not to use the stove at all until it’s fixed, this Tuesday or Wednesday. Cost $250.00 for safety switch, glow bar was $166. The Lord sent someone to buy a hand gun I have which will pay the the safety switch. Thank you Lord. Now I’ll have a new stove, which will cost more than a brand new one.
I am glad I have a grill and a two eye gas stove outside.
*Well I had the stove man check the washer and dishwasher while he was here, ( so I would not have to pay another service call fee). The washer needs the arms that hold the tub in place. And the dish washer needs a sprayer bar. But they are cheap and he’ll bring them out with the safety switch. Thank you Lord. I’m taking very deep breaths with a few tears.
*Then I go out to mow the grass, I have 2 push mowers. To start, the best one, I had to turn on it’s side to get a string that was around the blade. Well when I set it back up right there was oil on the ground. So this house wife went and got a quart of oil to refill it. Would you not do the same? Well it took the whole quart. I started it up and mowed for about 10 minutes and the thing started smoking really bad. So I shut it off and called a guy. Did you know a push mower is Not supports to have a whole quart of oil? I didn’t. So he tells me to drain it. I ask, How? He said there’s a plug, or tip it again to drain it out. Well I looked and looked, could not find a plug, so I tipped it again. I got the right amount of oil in it. And mowed for an hour, and it stopped working. Ok Lord thank you I have another mower. So I go get it going, and mow another hour when it dies. Ok Lord, this yard really needs mowing. So inside I go to rest and cry a bit. I go back out and try that mower again, it starts. Thank you Lord. I mow another hour and it stops yet again. Then it dawns on me, the mower stops when it’s hot. Sure enough I go back out when it cools off and it starts. Thank you Lord. Then I have to turn it off to take a phone call. I go back out and I don’t have the strength now to pull the cord to start it. Ok Lord, no more mowing today. Will this mower or mowers start again today? I am praying hard they will.
*The closet that holds the hot water heater has a hole in the floor to the ground. The main bathroom floor has dropped 2 inches. The landlords just left and they said they’d fix it tomorrow. Thank you Lord. While they were here they treated all the ant hills in the yard. Thank you Lord. They said all their rentals were having the same problems with ants.
Things I learned:
*I have also learned I do not have enough hands to do all that needs doing. Yard is clean – house a mess or yard a mess and house clean. I have to find the middle ground somewhere. Please Lord.
*A push mower does not need a whole quart of oil. And you need good arm muscles to keep starting them.
*The Lord always sends people to help you in His time.
*Prayer is so much better than worrying. Worrying never fix a thing, while prayer fixes everything.
*Tears are good, they clean your eyes and heart.
*There is always something good to be found in the bad things that happen. In ALL things give thanks. I forgot to do this with the mowers and stove. And the Lord will still work everything out for my good.
Thank you Lord for Your mercy and grace.
Well let’s see what happens today on the farm.
Have a great day and God bless you all.